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Episode 011
Marriage Series Part 2B 0-20 y w/ Eric and Cameron Lowe

Cameron and Eric are how I first learned what a PODCAST was and that they existed!

Personality tests saved my marriage: Myers Briggs. But Ennegram, Strengthsfinders 2.0, and resources like The 5 love languages.

Cameron is extroverted and Eric is introverted. 
Respect to Eric is not being interrupted. He likes facts/figures (engineer-like personality).

Cameron is relationally oriented. When things aren’t right with other areas of their life, Cameron has difficulty focusing on date night until the other issues are resolved. Whereas, Eric can compartmentalize and move on.

Enneagram can give you an idea about your basic personality type and help you understand why you are inclined to think/operate the way you do. It’s not confining you or an excuse but can be liberating in your relationships and marriage.

Marriage conferences and Andy Stanley date night curriculum. 

“You don’t know what you don’t know.” -Eric 

Understand the differences between men and women. Humble yourselves and dig in as much as you can.

The most recent season of their marriage is “leaning in to what we learned early on and making sure it stays a part of who we are.” Principles learned that they incorporate during crisis management, reconciliation, and patience. Now it’s application. And gentle reminders. Growth moments.

Some of the tough times really leave funny stories to tell. 

Eric learned the importance of apology. Biblical foundation is the commonality that lays the groundwork and shows us where our basis and opinions are formed. A marriage centered in Christ gives us a freedom to fight/argue/disagree because any dispute is seen as a growth moment and knowing it’s not going to be “the fight that ends it all.”

Cool off time alone is ok and then you can come back clear minded.

Changing careers - supportive of each other.

Boundaries with in-laws - discuss holiday plans and taking turns. Making expectations clear. No assumptions. Just run stuff by each other and find out if it’s ok with your spouse.

Conflicts between each other stay between one another. They do not consult with family/parents. It would drive a wedge between our partner and our parents.

Respect for in-laws have grown because we see the way they care. They have both been phenominal examples of godly marriages.

They are a part of bi-weekly small groups with other couples. They desire to pray more together as a couple. Prayer really ties our hearts together and humbles us. Couples devotionals are done periodically.

Pray for God’s covering whenever anxiety and fear and the unknown start to creep in.

Advice for couples at this point in your marriage: STAY INTENTIONALLY CONNECTED. Set aside time to focus on each other. That needs to be the #1 priority. If you are struggling in one area, go to the the Bible. Not social media, not parents, not podcasts, but the BIBLE. If everything seems like a struggle, you probably need to focus on that reconnection.

Also, know yourself individually and who you are.